Someone in your family is using drugs – you just confirmed this, though you’ve been concerned for a long time. It doesn’t seem like they are making any change. How do you talk them into stopping their drug use and getting drug treatment?
Cant Force Person To Learn From Drug Rehab
You need to know a few things about drug addiction to understand the answer to this question. First, the very most frustrating part is that you cannot force a person to truly get better. Only they have that power. You can say all kinds of things to them. But if they haven’t yet experienced enough deep pain from their drug addiction, your words won’t find a crack in their defensiveness to crawl through. They will fall on ears that don’t want to hear.
There are ways to declare a person incompetent, they might be in legal trouble, they may have to answer to a mental health board. They may attend an entire course of legally required drug treatment and say a lot of the right things. But here’s the important part. No matter how stringent the authority and accountability, the person must be ready to hear the message for them to truly begin recovery.
Arguing With Drug Addict About Drug Rehab Doesnt Work
Until they are ready to hear the full meaning in your words of advice and caution, you will probably feel like you are beating your head against a wall. Arguing won’t do any good here because an unready drug addicted mind has plenty of ammunition to shoot back at you. They have excuses, addiction thinking that convolutes their logic, a sense of self-centered survival, blame, plenty of emotional pain, and possibly a few legitimate gripes about life. They are more comfortable being where they are than turning from their addiction and seeking drug treatment.
The best course of action is to seek professional help of some kind. Speak to a therapist who does interventions. Ask questions about drug rehab and outpatient drug treatment. Get some help and support for yourself if you have lived with this situation closely (Alanon or possibly counseling). Do what you can to involve your drug addicted loved one, but understand that your influence has a limit.
Get Support For You Even If They Skip Drug Rehab
You cannot control them like a robot, you can only show them the big picture and the choices. And even at that, they may not want to hear or see any of it, much less take a step toward drug treatment. That’s perhaps the most important reason to seek support for yourself. If your efforts don’t get your loved one moving forward, you may need help dealing with your feelings and how to handle the situation.
By Wendy Lee Nentwig