The first step to addiction recovery is admitting you have a problem. Yes, this sounds so cliche at times – it’s but obviously there is truth to it. So what makes it so hard to do that very first step?
The Problem May Seem Obvious to Others But Not to You
You may be running out of money, changing your priorities, and missing family and friend time. But to you, it’s just a temporary money problem, you’re just meeting new people, and can’t anyone have fun around here anymore?
From your perspective, everyone else is blowing your drug use all out of proportion, trying to control you and bring you down. So you’ve missed a few of your kid’s softball games. Big deal, there are too many anyway. You’ve borrowed money from friends to make your rent. Doesn’t everyone do that now and then? Your new friends all hang out at weird hours and some don’t have jobs. No one can tell you who to be friends with.
Drug and Alcohol Addiction is About Escaping Pain
The biggest problem about realizing and admitting you have an addiction is getting past yourself. Yes, you are your own worst barrier. The addiction mindset delivers a lot of excuses to others, fueling a sense of entitlement. Chances are, there is a lot of hurt sitting around in your heart looking for redemption and justification. You find temporary relief from drinking and abusing drugs – aha, finally something you can count on!
You’ll do anything to keep that relief going. And you might even find that your addiction behaviors get you out of other responsibilities and burdens. Wow – even more relief than you’d counted on. Pretty soon, you aren’t expected to do hardly anything that you don’t feel like doing. While this may sound like a loafer’s paradise, you are paying mightily.
Drug Addiction Makes You Believe You Are Better Off With The Lies
You are trading in your self respect, the respect of others, your life purpose, and the health of your mind and body. By the time your drug addiction gets to this point, you have likely added more pain than you were originally trying to escape.
And do you really want to admit to anyone that you chose this path? That you brought on the drug addiction yourself and all the problems that have come with it? How humiliating, how stupid you would feel, how alone and foolish. Nope, your addiction says you’d be better off to stand by the lies than to sacrifice your dignity like that.
With Drug Addiction Being Strong is Weak and Being Weak is Strong
This is when doing the opposite of what you feel like doing will actually help the most. It may seem like admitting to having a drug or alcohol addiction means you admit you are weak and worthless. In fact, it does the opposite. It shows you have the courage to face your fears and reach out to others. You may think you look strong by avoiding this admission. In fact, this shows you are giving in to your fears and the addiction lies. You are in the full grip of addiction when you do that.
Nobody wants to believe they are wrong, and taking personal responsibility can feel painful. That’s what everyone tries to avoid. Drug rehab shows you how facing your problems can bring relief and fresh possibilities. It’s not too late, and drug rehab can work when you start with that first step – admitting your addiction is a problem.
By Wendy Lee Nentwig